announcements

don't like them. never mind if i know the person who's been invited or not, but do not make last-minute announcements, then asking me if i'm okay with that.

that's not giving me a choice - repeat: NOT giving me a choice. what do you expect me to say, "oh, no, i don't think i'll be going"? i mean, don't make decisions then TELL me about it when we're the only TWO people going at the point of decision.

if it's a group, fine. i can still pull out graciously if i'm not comfortable because it's a group. but no. it's just two of us. if go i feel like i'm not getting what i've originally said yes to; if i don't go the other party will feel strange or worse - misunderstand that - oh i'm aiming for a date with you and was miffed because you invited someone else i didn't know about - and i don't want that.

does it therefore look like i have a choice in the matter? your manner of thought is quite strange, don't you think?


lesson learnt: do NOT do things like that to your friends. i will continue to NOT do this to my friends.