about teenage sexuality

today i saw on channel news asia cheryl fox taking on the oft-tackled topic of adolescent sexperiments and therefore, teen pregnancies.

it reminds me of the topics that we had to consider and ponder through when i was at that age. they now have reality shows, we had tv dramas, mini-movies that tackled sex, drugs, pregnancies. people like my friends and i never did have that kind of urge... perhaps because we didn't know what we were missing, and therefore didn't lose anything by not even trying.

truthfully, i didn't know where the urge to sexperiment came from when it came to secondary school kids. i cannot understand that as i hadn't been sexually driven when i was that age. i wasn't even very interested in the topic until much later - and by then i've already worked out what i would do if i were ever caught in that kind of situation.

sure, there were the thrashy novels that make me and a certain few blush, but that does not mean we went ahead and found ourselves boyfriends and so we can get down to business. in fact, we didn't get boyfriends at all.

oh there were crushes alright, but the focus was on studies then, not relationships. nonetheless, the idea of love was way more naive and simpler. we were, after all, influenced by taiwanese shows in which "one love, one life" was endlessly harped upon. impossible matches of rich-boy-poor-girl were rampant; i guess that helped shape the ideals we now have.

but i digress. so cheryl fox was interviewing teenagers about their babies (for those who got pregnant), teenagers who saw other teenagers get amorous at void decks, at playgrounds, and teenagers who... well, cruised through it all. which is to say that they weren't bothered like most of my friends weren't bothered.

so one of them said something about being curious about sex during the interview and i recall becoming scornful.

i still am, possibly because i cannot relate, nor understand why anyone could be curious.


i mean, i'm no virgin. i've had my fair share of make-outs and boyfriends... and truth be told, reading about how good sex feels the way they're described in romance novels - it's much like being told how fireworks look like and having a free fall.

which isn't wrong nor inaccurate.


it's just that to get there it takes more than just a teenager with a loaded gun, you get what i mean? sure, the kids sexperiment, but the girls, ho my goodness the girls - if grown men take forever to find the g spot do you really think young boys can hit it at first go?

seriously.

so... if it doesn't feel that great for the girl during make-out sessions and sex is almost always painful the first time round, why aren't the girls turned off yet?

perhaps they fancied themselves really in love, which may well be the case? i know i'm not one to discount the ability to feel love. perhaps my scorn stemmed from the understanding that these young boys won't know what to do when shit hits the fan and flies far.

don't the girls know that? or did they neglect the idea of condoms?


or perhaps they were like the two in JUNO? judging by the kind of ads that came up and the rising number of teen pregnancies - i'm guessing most aren't like the two in the above-mentioned movie.

heh. i wish they hadn't have to learn the hard way. life sometimes doesn't give second chances.