i'd just read the bible and well, it told me about being real inside. being real as in being honest and true without wanting others to see you in a certain way.
y'know, without the persona. sometimes, just sometimes, methinks people do things for the image. actually, a great deal of the time that people do things for the image. saying things for the sake of saying them; doing hings for the sake of appearing cool, pious, gentle, sweet... when in actual fact...
heh.
that happens a great deal in the media. people of the media have to be cool and worldly-wise because that's what they're supposed to be. they have to be attractive, eloquent, camera-ready and know what it is exactly that they're talking about when in truth... nothing against media people, honestly. i guess it's more to do with the idea that we're supposed to be cool.
that we know better.
ya think?
actually these people just may know better. it's a matter of connecting with the right questions that their knowing better will be revealed. we can't be as friendly as the westerners want to cut us out to be, because we're not. we're asians.
even westerners get tongue-tied sometimes because they hardly know a person and it actually takes a superbly friendly person (or a stupendously drunk one, for the dutch courage) to actually come to a group of people to say HELLO! my name is so-and-so and i was wondering if you would like to join me at my party at...
y'know.
...never mind. i think i don't know what i'm talking about at this hour.
and oh, yeah. my lady friend at the cafe is thinking of setting me up. i think she likes me. haha
Monday, November 24, 2008
Friday, November 21, 2008
"lapdance"
Lara: What’re you doing this Friday? Heading to Harry’s?
Flint: Yes – going for drinks at Harry’s then going home.
Lara: I see! I’m preparing food for my church tomorrow. So exciting!
Flint: Getting baptised again?
Lara: Not baptised again, silly. I hadn’t been baptised yet. It’s a pleasure making stuff for others’ enjoyment.
Flint: Still not baptized? Oh you heathen you.
Lara: Lol just wait till I actually say the word “lapdance”.
Flint: (puts on the “yeah whatever” look)
Lara: (not noticing but puts on the come-hither voice and look) “L----------------
Flint: (turns with a snap, with a look that says “why helloooo there!”)
Lara: (with a bit more rrrr this time, a bit more heavily coquettish) “LLL--------------
Flint: (listens, rapt)
Lara: “L ----------------- (licks lips)-----------------
Flint: (swallows, loosens his collar...)
Lara: "L----------- (comes closer to Flint, eyes closing slowly....)
Flint: (prepares to reach for her...)
Lara: (abrupt) “-apdance”.
Flint: Yes – going for drinks at Harry’s then going home.
Lara: I see! I’m preparing food for my church tomorrow. So exciting!
Flint: Getting baptised again?
Lara: Not baptised again, silly. I hadn’t been baptised yet. It’s a pleasure making stuff for others’ enjoyment.
Flint: Still not baptized? Oh you heathen you.
Lara: Lol just wait till I actually say the word “lapdance”.
Flint: (puts on the “yeah whatever” look)
Lara: (not noticing but puts on the come-hither voice and look) “L----------------
Flint: (turns with a snap, with a look that says “why helloooo there!”)
Lara: (with a bit more rrrr this time, a bit more heavily coquettish) “LLL--------------
Flint: (listens, rapt)
Lara: “L ----------------- (licks lips)-----------------
Flint: (swallows, loosens his collar...)
Lara: "L----------- (comes closer to Flint, eyes closing slowly....)
Flint: (prepares to reach for her...)
Lara: (abrupt) “-apdance”.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
you don't need doctors to tell you this
THIS IS FROM REUTERS. why they take the time to even write this article, i don't know.
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a1181reutru i BC-DOCTORS-TEXTING/ 11-10 0229
BC-DOCTORS-TEXTING/
Texting while driving is bad, US doctors agree
WASHINGTON, Nov 10 (Reuters) - Tapping out text messages on
a cell phone while driving is dangerous, the American Medical
Association agreed on Monday, and supported state legislation
to ban it.
The group, which represents about 240,000 U.S. physicians,
voted to lend its weight to laws that would make it easier for
police to pull over drivers who are doing it.
"Texting while driving takes the driver's attention away
from the road, which can lead to accidents," said Dr. Peter
Carmel, an AMA board member.
"A recent study found that text messaging while driving
causes a 400 percent increase in time spent with eyes off the
road. No one should have to worry that other drivers are
focused on texting instead of traffic. This is about keeping
people safe on our roads."
The AMA, meeting in Orlando, Florida, said seven states and
Washington, D.C. have bans on text messaging while driving.
Research has shown that talking on cell phones also
distracts drivers and can cause more accidents -- even with
hands-free devices -- and the AMA supports laws against doing
that, too.
The engineer driving a California train that crashed in
September, killing 12 people and injuring 135 in the worst U.S.
train accident in 15 years, was text-messaging seconds before,
federal investigators said.
(Reporting by Maggie Fox, editing by Will Dunham and
Cynthia Osterman)
REUTERS
Reut 22:20 11-10-08
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a1181reutru i BC-DOCTORS-TEXTING/ 11-10 0229
BC-DOCTORS-TEXTING/
Texting while driving is bad, US doctors agree
WASHINGTON, Nov 10 (Reuters) - Tapping out text messages on
a cell phone while driving is dangerous, the American Medical
Association agreed on Monday, and supported state legislation
to ban it.
The group, which represents about 240,000 U.S. physicians,
voted to lend its weight to laws that would make it easier for
police to pull over drivers who are doing it.
"Texting while driving takes the driver's attention away
from the road, which can lead to accidents," said Dr. Peter
Carmel, an AMA board member.
"A recent study found that text messaging while driving
causes a 400 percent increase in time spent with eyes off the
road. No one should have to worry that other drivers are
focused on texting instead of traffic. This is about keeping
people safe on our roads."
The AMA, meeting in Orlando, Florida, said seven states and
Washington, D.C. have bans on text messaging while driving.
Research has shown that talking on cell phones also
distracts drivers and can cause more accidents -- even with
hands-free devices -- and the AMA supports laws against doing
that, too.
The engineer driving a California train that crashed in
September, killing 12 people and injuring 135 in the worst U.S.
train accident in 15 years, was text-messaging seconds before,
federal investigators said.
(Reporting by Maggie Fox, editing by Will Dunham and
Cynthia Osterman)
REUTERS
Reut 22:20 11-10-08
Sunday, November 09, 2008
dating
i realise i've been dating. i've been seeing this guy for three days running.
it's fast by normal standards, then again it's only been three days.
but i don't feel that it's too fast. i'm comfortable with it, perhaps because i have given my self to God, that's why i don't feel the need to belong to someone else. there is a sense of peace and equilibrium.
helps that chap's pretty cute and the right kind of intense.
after chris though, boy. i just want to be careful. like, careful, never mind that he's calling back.
and careful i will be.
it's fast by normal standards, then again it's only been three days.
but i don't feel that it's too fast. i'm comfortable with it, perhaps because i have given my self to God, that's why i don't feel the need to belong to someone else. there is a sense of peace and equilibrium.
helps that chap's pretty cute and the right kind of intense.
after chris though, boy. i just want to be careful. like, careful, never mind that he's calling back.
and careful i will be.
Tuesday, November 04, 2008
about teenage sexuality
today i saw on channel news asia cheryl fox taking on the oft-tackled topic of adolescent sexperiments and therefore, teen pregnancies.
it reminds me of the topics that we had to consider and ponder through when i was at that age. they now have reality shows, we had tv dramas, mini-movies that tackled sex, drugs, pregnancies. people like my friends and i never did have that kind of urge... perhaps because we didn't know what we were missing, and therefore didn't lose anything by not even trying.
truthfully, i didn't know where the urge to sexperiment came from when it came to secondary school kids. i cannot understand that as i hadn't been sexually driven when i was that age. i wasn't even very interested in the topic until much later - and by then i've already worked out what i would do if i were ever caught in that kind of situation.
sure, there were the thrashy novels that make me and a certain few blush, but that does not mean we went ahead and found ourselves boyfriends and so we can get down to business. in fact, we didn't get boyfriends at all.
oh there were crushes alright, but the focus was on studies then, not relationships. nonetheless, the idea of love was way more naive and simpler. we were, after all, influenced by taiwanese shows in which "one love, one life" was endlessly harped upon. impossible matches of rich-boy-poor-girl were rampant; i guess that helped shape the ideals we now have.
but i digress. so cheryl fox was interviewing teenagers about their babies (for those who got pregnant), teenagers who saw other teenagers get amorous at void decks, at playgrounds, and teenagers who... well, cruised through it all. which is to say that they weren't bothered like most of my friends weren't bothered.
so one of them said something about being curious about sex during the interview and i recall becoming scornful.
i still am, possibly because i cannot relate, nor understand why anyone could be curious.
i mean, i'm no virgin. i've had my fair share of make-outs and boyfriends... and truth be told, reading about how good sex feels the way they're described in romance novels - it's much like being told how fireworks look like and having a free fall.
which isn't wrong nor inaccurate.
it's just that to get there it takes more than just a teenager with a loaded gun, you get what i mean? sure, the kids sexperiment, but the girls, ho my goodness the girls - if grown men take forever to find the g spot do you really think young boys can hit it at first go?
seriously.
so... if it doesn't feel that great for the girl during make-out sessions and sex is almost always painful the first time round, why aren't the girls turned off yet?
perhaps they fancied themselves really in love, which may well be the case? i know i'm not one to discount the ability to feel love. perhaps my scorn stemmed from the understanding that these young boys won't know what to do when shit hits the fan and flies far.
don't the girls know that? or did they neglect the idea of condoms?
or perhaps they were like the two in JUNO? judging by the kind of ads that came up and the rising number of teen pregnancies - i'm guessing most aren't like the two in the above-mentioned movie.
heh. i wish they hadn't have to learn the hard way. life sometimes doesn't give second chances.
it reminds me of the topics that we had to consider and ponder through when i was at that age. they now have reality shows, we had tv dramas, mini-movies that tackled sex, drugs, pregnancies. people like my friends and i never did have that kind of urge... perhaps because we didn't know what we were missing, and therefore didn't lose anything by not even trying.
truthfully, i didn't know where the urge to sexperiment came from when it came to secondary school kids. i cannot understand that as i hadn't been sexually driven when i was that age. i wasn't even very interested in the topic until much later - and by then i've already worked out what i would do if i were ever caught in that kind of situation.
sure, there were the thrashy novels that make me and a certain few blush, but that does not mean we went ahead and found ourselves boyfriends and so we can get down to business. in fact, we didn't get boyfriends at all.
oh there were crushes alright, but the focus was on studies then, not relationships. nonetheless, the idea of love was way more naive and simpler. we were, after all, influenced by taiwanese shows in which "one love, one life" was endlessly harped upon. impossible matches of rich-boy-poor-girl were rampant; i guess that helped shape the ideals we now have.
but i digress. so cheryl fox was interviewing teenagers about their babies (for those who got pregnant), teenagers who saw other teenagers get amorous at void decks, at playgrounds, and teenagers who... well, cruised through it all. which is to say that they weren't bothered like most of my friends weren't bothered.
so one of them said something about being curious about sex during the interview and i recall becoming scornful.
i still am, possibly because i cannot relate, nor understand why anyone could be curious.
i mean, i'm no virgin. i've had my fair share of make-outs and boyfriends... and truth be told, reading about how good sex feels the way they're described in romance novels - it's much like being told how fireworks look like and having a free fall.
which isn't wrong nor inaccurate.
it's just that to get there it takes more than just a teenager with a loaded gun, you get what i mean? sure, the kids sexperiment, but the girls, ho my goodness the girls - if grown men take forever to find the g spot do you really think young boys can hit it at first go?
seriously.
so... if it doesn't feel that great for the girl during make-out sessions and sex is almost always painful the first time round, why aren't the girls turned off yet?
perhaps they fancied themselves really in love, which may well be the case? i know i'm not one to discount the ability to feel love. perhaps my scorn stemmed from the understanding that these young boys won't know what to do when shit hits the fan and flies far.
don't the girls know that? or did they neglect the idea of condoms?
or perhaps they were like the two in JUNO? judging by the kind of ads that came up and the rising number of teen pregnancies - i'm guessing most aren't like the two in the above-mentioned movie.
heh. i wish they hadn't have to learn the hard way. life sometimes doesn't give second chances.
Saturday, November 01, 2008
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